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The Shoebox

Apr 1, 2008
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There once was a couple that were planning to get married. Before the wedding took place the woman told the man, "You can never open this shoebox while we are married". So he agreed and they in time got married. Throughout their marriage he never once opened the shoebox but always wondered what was in there. Well, after 62 years of marriage his wife was in the hospital and the doctors told him that she will be passing on soon and it would be a good idea for him to spend as much time with her as possible. So he went to her and said to her, "In 62 years I never once opened the showbox you asked me not to open". She replied "Now would be a good time, go get it.." He brought it back and opened it to find two things: 2 doilies and $250,000 in cash. So he asked, "Why do you have this in here?" She said, "A long time ago my grandmother told me that when you get married, get a shoebox and when you get mad at your husband to make a doily." The husband, stunned, started tearing up because he knew that what that meant was she only got upset with him 2 times in 62 years He went on then to ask "If that's so, what is the deal with the $250,000?" She said....

"That is from all the doilies I sold."

(I was told this story by my husband who had heard it over the radio on a Christian radio station. Talk about "Aesop's Fables" in the 21st Century. haha!)

50/50 in Marriage?!?!

Mar 27, 2008
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I believe that in any, if not all, relationships, there are habits we pick up. There are a lot of good habits and a lot of bad habits that we adapt to because it is so common, we are led to believe that it is "normal."

One of those bad habits is this: Thinking that when we get into a relationship, if you put in, we are going to make damn sure that the other half will be putting in as well. Not just any percentage. If I put in 30%, they either have to match that or do more.

This is the kind of thinking that most times will lead the relationship down a road that you were trying to avoid in the first place: D-I-V-O-R-C-E.

Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way of how this way of thinking gets you into trouble. I believe that the media and the society that we are born into has planted that way of thinking into our heads. With all their romance movies, novels, etc. Based on those examples, we set standards that are so surreal sometimes that for the other person, it is just out of reach. Unattainable.

The world has taught me that in a relationship, the 50/50 percent rule is the only way that will guarantee true happiness.

Through God, I have discovered that there is no such thing as a 50/50 percent rule. If you find yourself in a relationship that you feel as if you are doing most of the loving, the talking, the supporting...and your other half isn't "pulling his/her weight," then so be it. True love is NOT about keeping score or trying to put a percentage on how much you have to love. True love is just loving without expectation, without the guilt trips.

True love is just that.

Love

~Mercy~